Raising Daughters

I'm the first one to admit it isn't always easy being a mom to six kids - two of which are girls.

My girls are ten months apart. One being born in October 2006 the other August 2007. It doesn't put them in the same grade at school or class, but it puts them extremely close in age which often makes life very interesting.

My girls couldn't be more different. Kyla is very shy and extremely sensitive. Ava is shy and very outspoken. Both are extremely loving, kind and generous little girls. Both also have very strong personalities which isn't a bad thing at all!

I'm not sure if it's because they are so close in age, or because they are sisters (because my boys sure don't do this) but they butt heads a lot. One minute they are the best of friends, the next they are hating each other, calling each other names and getting another sibling to gang up on the other. It's something I have never dealt with. So, It's most definitely a learning experience for me.

Last year was really extremely difficult with my girls. We had to make big changes where bedrooms were concerned. They had shared a bedroom since Ava was 18 months old, but last summer we had to give them both their own rooms and have 2 of the boys share the bigger room because it was impossible to have any sleep at night, to get them to learn responsibilities where toys, books, clothes anything was concerned. Their room was a complete wreck constantly. They'd keep each other up all night, every night. It was awful. It made days really long, and no one was happy. I was not getting any sleep either having to deal with them, so it was starting to take a toll on me too - which is why on a kwim I switched all bedrooms around.

Now, I'm happy to say everyone gets a full nights rest, the kids seem much happier and they get along much better, in fact probably better than they have in years.

Maybe they just needed some space from each other, to grow and be the individuals they are. I'm not sure, but all that matters is everyone is happy.

If I think back to when I was younger my mom and I would butt heads more than I care to admit. While my brothers and my mom had a decent relationship (not always so, but that's family!) I think it just comes with the territory that boys are often "mama's boys" and are closer to their mothers, Girls sometimes tend to get babied by their moms because we know what it's like to be a young girl. We've been there, done that... So we tend to be a bit harder on girls then we do the boys. If we realize we are doing it, I'm not sure.. But this in turn can push some girls away. Which I do not want for my girls, at all. I want the kind of relationship with my girls I missed out on with my mom when she passed away when I was 16.  I'm trying to really make an effort to ensure I don't so much as baby my girls, but help them along in life by being honest, sharing my experiences and not being too overly protective while being protective because they are still my babies and always will be, if that makes any sense?

I think I've been rather fair thus far, and I treat everyone equally. I love all my kids the same, but I do find my girls can be a bit more emotional (hello, girls!) so they tend to take things more to heart than the boys do. Five minutes after dealing with an issue with my boys, they love me and want hugs and kisses, all is forgotten - the girls, can hold a grudge for days! They can be fine, but a few days go by and they bring it up again. I remember what it's like though, and I can say for sure I was the exact same way. It wasn't that long ago for me you know, so I remember quite well! They think that if they do something wrong it's the end of the world, whereas the boys don't really care and are over it within minutes. It's for sure opened my eyes to the fact boys may be a bit easier than girls to raise. But I am most definitely up for this challenge and I am looking forward to it.

My girls may only be six and seven right now, but I think it's these early years that really count and make them into who they turn out to be as teens, young adults and mature women. I think these years are extremely important and I want to make sure I'm doing the best I can with my girls.

Anyone who has been through it, or is going through the same things as me.. feel free to comment. Words of advice or encouragement is extremely well received, and I look forward to anything anyone has to offer along my journey raising daughters.